In regards to the list and where the kitsune place on it, I feel like you can split them into two groups. You are an outsider, the difference is whether or not they look down on you for that. That being said, just because they don't look down on you for it doesn't mean they can't do you disservices as a result of seeing you as an outsider.
Kiyoko and Kinu probably thought they were doing you a favor by handling all the kitsune society side stuff, including Kinu's marriage, on their own. But that's a form of arrogance too, it's more obvious in the case of Garth deciding he knows best in regards to the Gweyr situation but that was a more serious situation with more serious and obvious consequences.
In the case of floof house though, you are the spouse and not the child yes but also the scenario isn't that serious, the only problem is an emotional one that you can talk through. It smarts more though, because it's your family. That's probably the most important thing to consider in that ranking, it's heavily dependent on their relation to the Champ. Kasyrra would deserve top spot in terms of pure displayed arrogance but she's more powerful than you and she's a demon so she gets more leeway, in the same way the Seven get more leeway because they're gods, arrogance is unfounded pride and scorn. If anything, the very tippity top of the "needs humbling" list is Tollus, in both impersonal and personal contexts. Then again this seems to be for interactable NPC's so in that case I'd give it to Nakano in particular out of all the kitsune or maybe still Kasyrra, since there's only so much leeway you get for being a demon.
Kiyoko and Kinu probably thought they were doing you a favor by handling all the kitsune society side stuff, including Kinu's marriage, on their own. But that's a form of arrogance too, it's more obvious in the case of Garth deciding he knows best in regards to the Gweyr situation but that was a more serious situation with more serious and obvious consequences.
In the case of floof house though, you are the spouse and not the child yes but also the scenario isn't that serious, the only problem is an emotional one that you can talk through. It smarts more though, because it's your family. That's probably the most important thing to consider in that ranking, it's heavily dependent on their relation to the Champ. Kasyrra would deserve top spot in terms of pure displayed arrogance but she's more powerful than you and she's a demon so she gets more leeway, in the same way the Seven get more leeway because they're gods, arrogance is unfounded pride and scorn. If anything, the very tippity top of the "needs humbling" list is Tollus, in both impersonal and personal contexts. Then again this seems to be for interactable NPC's so in that case I'd give it to Nakano in particular out of all the kitsune or maybe still Kasyrra, since there's only so much leeway you get for being a demon.
