I think you are justified in being annoyed at the hymen thing (as is any woman, really). The unfortunate reality is that rather than writers not understanding women, virginity loss content is usually targeting men who like that kind of thing -- and hymen tearing is a symbolic thing. Rather than anatomical inaccuracy, it's just fetishization. It's like someone's previous gripe about not liking overlarge tiddies and dicks. It's not dumb to hate it (or any fetish you don't like), it's just that you weren't the target audience.
Since it was mentioned, I'll say this now: everyone in the world knows a tap to the cervix isn't pleasurable IRL (and don't get at me saying you like it when it's a soft rubbing you pedants you know what I mean). We still write it because it's CoC, and that's a turn-on for people who read a lot of hentai (spoilers: most of our userbase).
Hmm, now I'm curious as to just how much of this kind of content is an actual misconception on the creators part, versus deliberate fetishization. As most pieces give no tell as to which it is, and I'm certain that some porn out there is made by people whose only experience with sex is hentai and the shite sex ed we get in schools, and they legitimately believe that spearing the cervix is extremely pleasurable for all women.
