I'm honestly not sure it should be removed, because it does show that for all their talk about being the better Myr, the goldens are not nearly as peaceful and innocent as they claim - and I think that little episode is one of the few that shows that.
But, about your points:
1) As far as I understood that event, they don't really care.. I mean, depending how you look, their "mistake" is completly ludicrous, so I just assumed they where horny and did not care about consent.
2) Well, I give you this one, having a second chance to break free would be nice and it would not destroy the scene (imho)
3) Same as 1, they are horny and use that whore-thing as an excuse to abuse you.
4) This on the other hand.. I actually disagree with. Sure, there are less forced transformation compared to CoC1, but I do not think that this world is that more peaceful and nice. The moment you gained your ship and left your home station, you decided to risk everything.
But maybe I have an easier time saying that, since I do tend to savescum a bit and rarely visit that city in the first place.. ^^'
But on the "secretly enjoying it" thing.. yeah, not a fan. I usually avoid such scenes, but from what I have seen, that the MC enjoys being forced seems common. Which I fail to see the appeal. So, yeah, I do think the bit with the "secretly likes it" should be left to the player and not decided by the author - unless it is a scene which has to be chosen in the first place.