The only one I've seen people call themselves is trap, and that's because they're weebs dealing with internalized transphobia who come out as trans or nb later or femme guys who don't get or don't care about the transphobia of the term, usually the first one.
That seems very meanspirited, and erases the identity of crossdressing men. The assumption that someone cannot have stereotypically "feminine" mannerisms, hobbyist interests, appearance, or sense of style inherently must have gender dysphoria seems far more transphobic than reclaiming the usage of words for a more positive dialogue and culture.
The concept of someones personality dictating their gender identity seems far more likely to reinforce sexist ideals than embracing open language and positive intent.
There is nothing inherently shameful about sex or sexuality, so the concept that usage of terminology within the framework of erotica is inherently demeaning or objectifying would come across as puritanical and disrespectful towards a natural part of the biology, art and philosophies of humanity.
Deciding to focus on language instead of intent, and creating personal stories or a psyche based on offenses around interpretative language, instead of trying to understand the intended meaning and expression, I feel causes a lot more negativity, conflict and strife across communities.
Gender dysphoria as we know it has been cured within the world of Trials, the amount of cultural and scientific advances across humanity drastically changes the context for language and expression. Even within our context, drawing a negative connotation from the language, instead of the intended one, of positive portrayal and sexual enticement, comes across as a personal issue with interpreting feelings and how language makes people think.