I'm siding with Golds not because I like them on particular, but because they're the lesser of two evils. The mindset (and venom) of the reds is too noxious to galaxy's well-being.
It's less of 'the Golds don't deserve losing' and more of 'the Reds don't deserve winning'. I picture them like the Byzantines (Golds) and Turks (Reds). Gold's fall would be catastrophic, not only for them, but for the nyrea and bothrioc, as the red would seek their anhhilation.
Again, if we stick to the facts, where are the clues to the Gold athrocities? Most are reds telling so, and the others are the late use chemical weapon of and the threat of nukes as last resort. The gold myr orgy can count as something forced, but so is Lieve's venom
Red ones? Let's check:
Who subjects their prisioners to a life of mind-slavery?
The Reds, and the bothrioc, to an extent.
Who sells their prisioners as slave-stock?
The Reds.
Who claimed being hunted for being different, while seeking the desctuction of rival races?
The Reds.
Who kidnaps foreign spacers?
The Reds.
Who also used chemical weapons, even when they're winning?
The Reds.
Who seeked to harm an orange infant, daugther of one of their own, so her mother had to escape of the planet?
The Reds.