And for every person that whinges about them I find somebody who loves them or even self-describes as one of those terms. So :shrug:
The only one I've seen people call themselves is trap, and that's because they're weebs dealing with internalized transphobia who come out as trans or nb later or femme guys who don't get or don't care about the transphobia of the term, usually the first one.
And just because some people in a group use or don't mind a slur doesn't mean it's okay for someone else to use it. One of my friends calls herself and other black people "nigga", but another one absolutely hates the term and made her agree not to say it around her. Some people call themselves a slut or a whore around friends, but someone saying it derogatorily is still not okay.
But for some reason, terms that some people shout while murdering trans people, that I lost my job filing a complaint over being called, that children hear when they lose their friends or home for coming out, that assholes use when laughing over a trans person's suicide, those terms are okay to use because some people don't feel like looking for an alternative in their porn?
The same people who say things like, "You'll never be a woman, you're just a faggot tricking men into having gay sex" love those terms. The kind of people who call the cops on butch women in bathrooms under the suspicion of being trans love those terms. And yeah, people just looking for porn and not thinking about it use them too, but that only makes it more harmful if anything.