@NotYouNorI Your poor subs- the idea that the person with all the power is the Dom is so
unhealthy. I just, I am sitting here, kinda feeling bad for having to type this out as the new person to the forum... but-
dear gods.
If you looked at me literally writing all around it, how he was a bratty sub, and still focused on that- I think what you want is closer to rape than subbing, a
removal of the ability to consent and a removal of the GIVING of consent. The
sub in a
healthy relationship IS the one with
most of the power. The Sub has the ultimate say in what does and doesn't happen. TBH the sub is the one in
ultimate control, because they ask for the scene, they set the guide rails and are the ones to hold the reigns on where the relationship goes.
A weak sub or a dom who forgets that is what leads to the super-toxic relationships like Joker/Harley in the new Suicide Squad movie or all these other fucked up relationships like that highlighted in 50 shades of grey, etc. If the
DOM is the one with all the control and power, something has gone horribly, terribly wrong, and while the fantasy is fantastic to play with, it is so so so so unhealthy IRL.
Which it sounds like, since you were ignoring ALL the words around it to harp on me calling him a different popular phrasing on very pushy/bratty sub, one who makes his Dom WORK for the gift of his handing over control, I am going to assume that this is about how I wanted to see a smart sub with teeth and power who just likes giving up control and letting go... but is unwilling to compromise their morals or standards to do so.
Sorry- having had a horrible Domme who tried to groom me into accepting that because I was a sub, I was trufax her possession/powerless makes this a real hot-button for me. No quarter for the "Bratty/power bottom" isn't another type of subbing camp. Where kiddos and groomers sneer that a real sub has no power... Like, get out of my Munch, yeah?