Aren't games that feature a lot of m/m typically geared toward women, aswell? Or is that just japanese games?
What's your sexuality?
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I honestly have no idea :/ I don't think I know any western game with m/m as a central feature (besides DDADDS)
But I think there are Japanese games with bara whose intended audience is gay men?
I'd consider myself absolutely straight but with an open mind for how other sexual scenarios can get people excited. Enough of an open mind that I'll freely admit here that while reading/writing/watching some alternative scenarios I have been turned on. It's just, if it came down to actually doing some of that alternative stuff, I just couldn't do it.
I think I'm in the same place. I'm only attracted to women, but I don't let that keep me from doing stuff in this game. For example, I'd never do a threesome with a girl and another guy, but I do Amma and Ogram's scene every time I first go to New Texas, because I like that scene. That's part of what I like about porn games, I can "actively" try out a fetish, or something I wouldn't do IRL, and see if I like it.
Most of the time, that's a "nope", though. My tastes are pretty vanilla compared with some of the things I see people talk about here. *shrug*
It's the good thing about games, experience lives you would never in another circumstances.
Yup, would never take a nyrean ovi-cock up the ass and get egged in the real life...
Ok, I would...
Well that then raises the question of whether the things you do in a game DO reflect your actual sexuality, or whether it's just a fantasy to you, no different from slaughtering hundreds of mooks an FPS even if you'd hesitate to shoot another human in real life. If you'd ONLY, for example, have gay sex with another man inside a game, does that make you bi at all? I mean obviously the scene turns you on or you wouldn't be doing it, but if you wouldn't actually do that in real life, then what does it really say about you?
Speaking for myself, I HAVE actually had sexual encounters with a pre-op transexual woman, including giving her blowjobs, although I only topped (sorry if that's TMI for you) and I found them to be some of the most enjoyable and satisfying I've ever had, so I've already worked my own sexuality out (she was an incredibly lovely woman and I wish I could see her again). I can trace my willingness to even experiment with this back to my tastes in porn, which I found expanded my worldview no end. Sometimes it's just a matter of finding the courage to try a new thing to make you realise you were into it all along (and if it turns out you're actually not, it's not like it's going to kill you, probably).
Not necessarily, no. There's plenty of people who have fantasies about and play games where they get raped. They don't, however want that to actually happen to them. There's a pretty big barrier between fiction/fantasy and reality. People may be more likely to gravitate toward their IRL fetishes in games, but they are also able to pick things in games that actively turn them off IRL.
IRL, I can't get with anyone who looks too young. People in their early 20's can sometimes come off as kids to me, and my boner nopes the fuck out of there. Even if their bodies are the sexiest things around, too much baby face kills the dong. Now, in game? Doesn't matter a bit. Hell, the game could describe them as a loli and it wouldn't matter. Why? Because my brain and boner are in fantasy mode, and the normal rules don't apply. Same thing goes for rape, which is something super relevant to TiTS and CoC. The idea of rape disgusts me IRL, and is something I not only wouldn't do, but something my ability to maintain an erection wouldn't permit. I'd get turned off and shut down. In game, however, I have no issue with being a max corruption serial rapist.
Now, that all aside, preferences you have in life CAN influence your choices in game, just not the other way around. I prefer dark skinned people irl, and that shows with my choices in games and what characters I gravitate towards. I like people with large appetites irl and tend to surround myself with those sorts in games. I... I made the mistake of bringing up appetites and just realized that I need to order groceries before the supermarket's cutoff time. If I wait too long they won't deliver until tomorrow and I NEED gouda for what I intend to make tonight. I think I got across what I was trying to say, so have a nice day.
In the scene I was talking about, you don't have sex with Ogram. You have sex with Amma while she sucks Ogram off. So that's kind of a moot point.
And either way, I don't think of characters I play in games as me. They're someone I'm controlling, and I play them different depending on what I think they'd do. My amazon cowgirl Steele only uses her dick, and rarely fucks anyone but women who don't have dicks. My catgirl Steele will do just about anything with anyone, though I usually still don't have her fuck men, because I don't care to read those scenes. That's why I called it "trying out" a fetish - it's not me doing it, it's me watching it and seeing if I like it.
Yup, would never take a nyrean ovi-cock up the ass and get egged in the real life...
Ok, I would...
I'd volunteer in a heartbeat to get egged.
Speaking as an asexual, I am absolutely in it for the smut here. I'm fascinated by sex and sexuality, and I enjoy porn and smut when I'm on my own– asexuals can have libidos, they just don't have an interest in sharing that with other people– or if they do, it's on basises other than "I find you sexually-attractive". I just personally have never wanted to and have sex with anyone else. Fantasy isn't the same as reality, even if the two often go together– and I really enjoy putting myself in the role of someone else who -would- enjoy that.
I'm panromantic, and comfortable with playing as and seeking out sex scenes with bodies and genders of all kind, but I really like the transhumanist ideal about being either completely sexless or a herm– functionally something that human beings naturally are not (at least 99.99% of the time). I appreciate that people in these sorts of communities connect gynephilia to femininity and social expression of gender, not genitals or pronouns. I certainly know that I prefer to cuddle women most of the time!
Meh, it's too much hassle to try and apply a label to my sexuality.
I'm attracted to whatever I find attractive, and that falls under the umbrella of: complicated
I'm attracted to whatever I find attractive, and that falls under the umbrella of: complicated
Well there's a big difference between "fetishes" and "sexuality" I think. Rape is a sexual ACT (as well as a crime, obviously) but "rapist" is not a sexual alignment. (Of course, the question of what DOES count as a sexual alignment is quite a tricky and controversial one.) I mean, I'm no sexual psychologist (obviously), but I can't help but wonder if there's a difference between enjoying indulging in a rape fantasy scene in a game while obviously not being a rapist and, for example, claiming to be straight while fapping to scenes where your male character takes a big dick up his ass from another man (e.g. Vahn's Dommy Anal scene). I mean, personally I love titfucking while footjobs don't do a thing for me, but I don't think either preference has any effect on my sexuality at all.
I'm not trying to start anything with anyone or anything. I just find human sexuality a fascinating subject of discussion. It's one of the most elaborate and confusing elements of our minds.
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I have to say that describes me quite well, although I would possibly be open to herms if they existed.
Well herms technically do exist. They're just not as they are in fiction, with fully functional genitals of both genders. I remember a few interviews with some who are that way but they were just hermaphrodite on either a purely genetic level or had the other genitalia inside their body that didn't mature. One, outwardly female, herm was actually found sterile because of her body's male genes canceling out her ability to have eggs somehow. She still had a womb and everything else for a woman but no eggs & male genetics.
I haven't done research on this so, for all I know, it's possible there might've already been someone born as a fully functional herm. I've just never heard about it. All I say in this comment is just me relaying info from random interviews/documentaries I remember seeing on TV from about 20+ years ago.
Comment is accurate. While no one can exclude the possibility of a fully functional herm existing, there are exactly zero documented cases of them. No IRL futas. That's not to say that some "true herms" (those with visible external sex organs for both genders) haven't come close. There's been a few rare cases where they were basically one organ away from possibly being fully functional as both sexes, but based on the karyotypes observed, most believe that IRL futas are going to remain impossible naturally. (who knows, though, future medical science could allow people to change themselves into IRL futas someday.
I'm pretty sure the term hermaphrodite is outdated (at least in the scientific community) and has negative connotations. I think the acceptable, non offending term is intersex now.
Intersex is for humans and other non-hermaphroditic species exhibiting hermaphroditic traits due to mutation, genetic errors, etc. but if a species has true hermaphroditism, then the right term is hermaphrodite.
Since we cannot be true hermaphrodites, the right term is, as you point out, intersex.
Thanks for the clarification! I meant that hermaphrodite was incorrect for humans specifically, since @NathanTrial was talking about humans with hermaphroditic traits (somehow the fact that a lot of other species have true hermaphroditism slipped my mind lol)
While intersex is used in the scientific community (and is also gaining traction online), hermaphrodite is still commonly used in medical ones, with the term "true hermaphrodite" having a different meaning (possessing both primary sex organs[ovaries/testes] whether or not both are function or if secondary organs fallopian tubes, uterus/prostate gland, Cowper's gland/etc] are even present.)
This is the first I've heard of the term intersex replacing herm or hermaphrodite for negative connotation reasons. But it's also been around 20 + years that I paid much attention to herms, that weren't in fiction, because I simply don't know any personally. Plus whenever I would talk about it off line, such as talking about Predestination, hermaphrodite was just the term we've all used. So thanks to your post I did do some light research into this. Well now I don't know which term to use because for every few random online posts I saw pointing out it was negative there were plenty that didn't mention anything like that. There was even a few stating that there's some kind of attempt to make "hermaphrodite" okay again by taking back the word.
So as a compromise to all the confusing data I just read I'm just gonna say I'll default to using "herm" instead of the full term. Unless and until sometime in the future some term gains enough traction to be understood by those I talk with offline.
I'm aromantic and asexual. Ultimately I kinda use these games to explore stuff I wouldn't normally do.
Like, the idea of myself having sex? Makes me want to vomit. But... Reading about my Steele, who's nothing like me at all, doing it? That's interesting.
Same sort of concept goes with romantic paths. It's just kinda fascinating to watch the character development that can come of it - hell, Bess/Ben's path is one of my favourite things in the game - but I wouldn't persue it with a Steele that I actually played as a self insert.
And yeah. I write porn now too. Rely heavily on editors letting me know if x/y/z is actually hot or just odd.
Kinda the same concept as someone who writes a murder story isn't themself a murderer. Writing smut doesn't mean you necessarily are into the kinda porn you write.
...Anyway that's a longwinded way of walking right into being accused of a snowflake who spends too long on tumblr.
Like, the idea of myself having sex? Makes me want to vomit. But... Reading about my Steele, who's nothing like me at all, doing it? That's interesting.
Same sort of concept goes with romantic paths. It's just kinda fascinating to watch the character development that can come of it - hell, Bess/Ben's path is one of my favourite things in the game - but I wouldn't persue it with a Steele that I actually played as a self insert.
And yeah. I write porn now too. Rely heavily on editors letting me know if x/y/z is actually hot or just odd.
Kinda the same concept as someone who writes a murder story isn't themself a murderer. Writing smut doesn't mean you necessarily are into the kinda porn you write.
...Anyway that's a longwinded way of walking right into being accused of a snowflake who spends too long on tumblr.
If someone went that far over your fairly innocuous comment, I'd say they're the one getting T R I G G E R E D.
True, true. Kinda got used to backlash from the tumblr side lmao.
Oh, the irony of having a sexual/romantic orientation that half of tumblr wont recognise...
All the good stuff is both.
Just something I've noticed, but books about murder written by actual murderers are the most boring things I've ever read. I think that successfully writing an enjoyable murderer could be grounds for exoneration.
Huh? I love accusing people of that, but you didn't say anything snowflake-y. I'm with Woider on this one.
Now, SHOULD I try and write something about my sexuality? Can't possibly be as hard as I think it is.
I guess I am largely gynephilic, in the sense that I am attracted to femininity. That is very broadly speaking, of course. I prefer androgyny over "explicit" masculine or feminine appearances, but I prefer feminine over masculine form. I don't really care about gender, but I have of course preferences concerning attitude, personality and self-image connected to gender, so one could call me either pan- or polysexual.
On the BDSM side, things get way more complicated as they tend to do when getting into detail. I prefer being a sub when penetration of any kind or degrading is in order, but with some power play and especially bondage I like the dom side a tad more. Voyeurism is also big on my list. I could go on, but I guess it wouldn't end.
I guess I am largely gynephilic, in the sense that I am attracted to femininity. That is very broadly speaking, of course. I prefer androgyny over "explicit" masculine or feminine appearances, but I prefer feminine over masculine form. I don't really care about gender, but I have of course preferences concerning attitude, personality and self-image connected to gender, so one could call me either pan- or polysexual.
On the BDSM side, things get way more complicated as they tend to do when getting into detail. I prefer being a sub when penetration of any kind or degrading is in order, but with some power play and especially bondage I like the dom side a tad more. Voyeurism is also big on my list. I could go on, but I guess it wouldn't end.
Depends on which corner of tumblr you frequent I guess? I haven't seen any gatekeeping bigot's comment myself ever since I blacklisted the aphobia tag (thank god for tumblr savior) and blocked anyone who made aphobic posts/comments. Only way to preserve my sanity, too. I'd have gone ballistic if I'd had to see one more idiotic hate-fuelled post on my dash -_-
Picked up any tips for a fellow ace? I have trouble writing sex scenes, I always feel they're too... robotic? cold? somehow.
Yeah, I got all the tags blacklisted myself but it still sneaks its way in sometimes.
Tips, hm?
If they're feeling cold it might be a lack of reactions etc. Tell us that X character is craning their neck to watch themself get penetrated, that Y can hear their partner's breath catch when they do a certain thing. Let it be messy and awkward!
I'm sure other people will have better suggestions though.