The reason people here don't like de-dicking is because it's viewed (and unfortunately, often done) as character assassination, turning what is usually a brash, confident and self-assured character with a dick into a mewling bitch who only wants some more dickings. I won't comment on that since I myself have written the most pandery companion in the game, but I personally only plan on writing it as part of a character arc.
And before anyone says "well yes but the meaningful character arc was implied", it wasn't. For every 1 person asking for Etheryn dedicking as part of a grand thing to make her feel like a woman or whatever thing they've come up with, there's 99 asking just because they want her dickless so they can fuck her like every other woman in the game. Just look at any blog post for evidence.
It's a somewhat unfortunate situation because both sides get boiled down to garbage, and the issue comes up very often so it's become a sore point.
Additionally, I should point this out, the vast, vast majority of our paying customers like dickgirls, and want more of them. We've polled this pretty extensively. There is no silent majority out there waiting for us to turn the game into a utopian harem paradise, not that anyone here has implied that.