So the ones that puts points in malus pushes her to the "hime" state and the bonus one towards the inari ?
and also..
points in malus... i'm severely confused, but i'll try to help.
for Kinu to grow into Hime Kinu, you'll have to make certain choices in her events that will give points towards that path, and for Inari Kinu, you must make choices that will give her points towards the Inari path. Thing is, to make it simpler, instead of being two point systems, it's just one, and if you get a positive number she'll grow into Inari, but if she gets a negative number, she grows into Hime.
When i saw how it worked the first time, i thought that Hime was some sort of negative path because the point system had to have negative results, but it's not the case at all, both paths are very unique on their own, and both have the same amount of content, just go on the path you feel more confortable with if you looked on the wiki, or just do the events how you feel more like doing for her, and go into the content blind. Now, to trigger the events more easily, everytime you go into the astral plane, just walk in and out of her interaction tile, as long as there is that little symbol of a person there, meaning you can interact with her, you can trigger an event, just walk in and out of the tile untill it triggers.
What will influence towards one or the other excepted those events ?
the only way to influence her outcome is through those events. Every other interaction you have with her between her and the champion will do nothing. Only the events will influence the point system.
Hope it helps!
Edit: basically, do what wolf said.