I'm a guy IRL, and when it comes to either CoC or TiTs I tend to pick a male as my starting character, especially for my first play through. Once I was used to how the game works I tried the other options, which is why my longest playthrough on either game start male and end up herm eventually. I've even done a male to herm to female playthough in TiTs once, due to Sera's request to lose the dick, mainly did it so I could see what would happen.
As others have said for themselves, I stick to a general theme once I'm happy with my transformations. (Kitsune-Dragon for CoC, and Golden Vanae/Amazon Goddess for TiTs)
Since I swing both ways and in terms of sub/dom things I'm a switch, it means I can handle pretty much anything the game can throw at me, years of being on the internet probably helps.... Which also makes me stick to herm, since I want to see everything the game has to offer usually.