I was specifically making my character to be non-binary, they/them, because that's what I AM
Look, I understand your disappointment, and as a fellow nonbinary, this has also irked me for a long time. Although I don't play as myself, so I probably have more tolerance for this kinda stuff.
You're right, this is an oversight. Unfortunately, it's unlikely to be fixed, like, ever.
For starters, TiTS is built around a binary gender spectrum, based on masculinity/femininity.*
Because the game is OLD. At time of conception, binary trans people were barely a blip on the radar of the public consciousness, nevermind nonbinary people.
After years of development, you'd have to rewrite pretty much everything in the game to account for enby player characters.
That's not the kind of work that can be easily automated : many writers for the game include personalized variants based on the player's pronouns/feminity. You'd have to legit write new phrases, sentences, or even paragraphs.
It'd take
years.
I doubt it'd be worth it for the developers to spend that much time to fix an oversight made years ago, for a very small minority of players.
(A few polls were made about what kind of PC the players used, and the vast majority played women, regardless of genitalia).
Especially when that time and effort could be used towards making and implementing more content into the game, fixing bugs, fixing the UI, etc.
Don't get me wrong, I'd love being able to play a nb pc myself, and again, trust me,
I get it, but at this point, unfortunately, nonbinary pronouns/gender would be too much work and time spent for too little reward for the game's developers.**
*Believe it or not, this is actually a vast improvement over its spiritual ascendant, Corruption of Champions. That game used your PC's combination of body parts to determine your PC's gender. Hint: It was not fun.
** It'd probably be easier and faster to implement a system for custom binary preferred pronouns, though. You'd have to ask a coder, but I don't see why we couldn't have a perser that takes she/her or he/him and changes them according to what the player wants.
Edited for spelling mistakes