Amber has two conditions to become recruitable (make the taur equipment available): be pregnant with her child/notify her that you're pregnant with her child or sex her 5 times. in the case of Tanis, the dialogue option for the taur equipment only becomes available for the preg condition, despite there being a notice to the player to go to Tanis for the equipment after they've sexed amber 5 times.
this was a fresh save an i don't have one available that can confirm urbolg's functionality
this was a fresh save an i don't have one available that can confirm urbolg's functionality